About A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari is a 50 year old woman, living in Ontario, Canada, who was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at the age or 19. She has recovered from BPD. A.J. is someone who has met the formidable challenges of knowing both sides of this personality disorder extremely well. As a child A.J. had two borderline parents. She went on to develop BPD, and subsequently, at the age of 38 recover from it. Years after she recovered from BPD she was in a relationship with someone who has both BPD and NPD. As she writes about in her ebook, "Full Circle - Lesson For Non Borderlines" A.J. has her feet firmly planted on the non borderline side of BPD now after having had that full-circle experience on the other side of BPD as a recovered borderline.
If you have been diagnosed with BPD and want to read about it but aren't ready to read about or deal with it from the point of view of non borderlines please go to my other website BPD From The Inside Out
From the experience of all of her pain, in her journey with BPD and her recovery from it, A.J. Mahari has come to realize an ever-increasing compassion for those who suffer from and/or are hurt by someone with BPD. A.J. cares very deeply about working to inform, assist, and educate both those with BPD and non borderlines. A.J. has tremendous insight garnered from her life experience that can and will provide you with increased awareness that will lend itself to your journey in such a way that any and all change that you need and seek in your life. The challenges that BPD present to you will be better understood, more apparent, and your emerging awareness can be harnessed in a way that will motivate your taking action upon the information that she adds to the other sources of information that seek to provide support that will become the bridge from where you are to where you want to be.
According to A.J., "There is a lot of stigma about Borderline Personality Disorder generally. There is systemic stigma that sees many with BPD being treated very poorly and without respect by some in Mental Health Care Delivery Systems. However, I think it is important to make a distinction here. When it comes to relationships many with BPD, unless or until they get enough skilled professional help, are not able to relate or to love and/or be loved in healthy ways.
I talk a lot about this and other realities that are part of BPD that those who are non borderline and who are hurt on the other side of BPD know all-too-well. I do not believe this adds to or in any way stigmatizes those with BPD. In fact, if you were to ask many with BPD, read email lists and message boards regularly as I do, those with BPD would be the first to admit (those who are aware) that they struggle in many ways in trying to have relaitonships and that they are often punishing to those they try to love.
This web site is a site to validate and explain the pain of those who are on the other side of Borderline Personality. It is not a site for those diagnosed with BPD. The reality and scope of the suffering that is being experienced by those who love or care, or who have loved or cared, about someone with BPD cannot and should not be minimized. That suffering, is as I think you know, very formidable indeed.
My goal on this web site is to provide information, from the inside out, as someone who had BPD and recovered and who knows the non borderline side very well too. Nothing I say on this site, in my ebooks or audio programs to non borderlines is meant to in any way stigmatize or de-humanize anyone with Borderline Personality Disorder. However, the focus of this web site is clearly the non borderline and the painful and sometimes dangerous reality on the other side of BPD."
I know all too well the pain of both sides of Borderline Personality Disorder. The reality of Borderline Personality Disorder is that it not only causes havoc in the lives who are diagnosed with it but the same can be said for those on the other side of it as well. Being a non borderline is a very painful place to be.
What I know and believe from my experience on both sides of Borderline Personality Disorder is that both those with BPD and those who are non borderline need to find their own recovery. The process and journey of that recovery and the reasons for it as well, are not the same. But more and more non borderlines are beginning to realize and understand that they too need recovery and that BPD can be very emotionally damaging on the other side of BPD.
"I hope that you will find something on this web site helpful to you in whatever it is that you are seeking on the other side of Borderline Personality Disorder."
