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Over-protective

Mothers feelings during the period when the child first comes home involve two contrary emotions, namely ~:shame and guilt and angry The mothers’ feeling shame and guilt are the ones who try to "make it up’ to their children. They spend more than they can afford and are unable to say no in any form. Often they develop an over-protective attitude that is aimed at safeguarding the child from the risk of further accidents, but it is also associated with reducing their own guilt feelings. The mothers that are angry with their children are the ones who feel that their child has let them down. This hostility is not easily expressedy, but sometimes shows itself in a crippling possessiveness, and encouraging the child to be dependent, which can only be harmful to the child.xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

 

Parents of burned children in their study experience a loss of appropriate perceptions and have an unconscious hostility towards the child due to the role perception loss. The parents tend towards both anxiety and hostility and pre­occupation with physical injury and/or deformity, as well as poor self-concept.. Mothers of burned children possess very low perceptions of themselves in general and in their ability to fulfill the role of a mother in particular.

 

Aggressive reactions occurred among children whose mothers consciously blamed themselves for the accident and who responded to feelings of guilt with depression and withdrawal from the child. Their children countered this loss of support with provocative, anxiety-arousing behavior in protest against the mothers withdrawal and an attempt to restore her interest and evidence of her care.

 

The interaction of stress symptoms after a burn injury affects the whole family and often marriages are threatened. Typically four out of ten mothers had marital problems, two had been divorced within one year of the accident, seven out of ten were depressed and most felt they had to suppress these feelings in order to help the child. These mothers said they did not display or even discuss their feelings with their doctors at the time of the accident. They refrained from making their emotional state known because of the irrational fear that their action would distract the doctor from the care of the child. Also because of a guilty sense of selfishness ever their own sense of need. Per mothers carrying this guilt burden alone, it causes a tremendous strain on the family.
By Bronwen Jones and Charissa Bloomberg
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