| Parents feel guilty about the bum accident, whether they were actually involved or not. They feel that they have failed in their role as protector. There is also the fear that the child will never forgive the parents and blame them for the accident. They go through a process of imagining what they could have done, or not done, to prevent the accident. If a patient dies during the first phase of post-burn adaptation; that of crisis (soon after the injury), certain family members will be at a higher risk for developing problems during bereavement with self blame for the patients death.xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> Most relatives carry this additional burden because they feel that they have contributed to, or caused the accident in which the patient was injured. Even when relatives have had nothing to do with the injury, some feel guilty. They explain this feeling on the basis of not having foreseen the possibility of the accident and not having taken steps to prevent it.
Some mothers are so filled with horror over their childs burn injury that they are unable to acknowledge blame for the accident or will make excuses to account for the accident to soothe their guilt feelings. This denial of guilt is usually a temporary response and acceptance of some responsibility occurs in time, whether it be minutes or months. |